STFU Dr. Google, Before you kill someone
In light of a friend’s very public mental / nervous breakdown I can no longer keep quiet. I am shocked at how many of you – normal-ass people with no medical degrees – purport to know better than trained professionals.
Who * are you * to judge which treatments are best for her?
Who are you to judge at efficacy and safeness of one’s particular pharmaceutical cocktail without a full medical history? Without a fucking medical degree?
Comments like ‘no need for drugs, they just numbs you‘ and ‘your dose isn’t healthy’ isn’t doing anyone any good. And those chiming in that this advice should be taken seriously? They’re just as bad.
Is your name followed by ‘MD’? No? Then STFU.
Are you a nurse-practitioner, psychiatrist, or psychologist? No? Then kindly stuff it where the sun don’t shine.
I happen to be one of ‘those’ people.
“Those” people apparently too weak to just to just breathe and center myself when the anxiety builds. When it builds so high I feel like I’m losing control. When I get so angry at the sense of losing control that I go bat-shit crazy at anyone or anything who dares give me the stink-eye.
I am of the ‘weak’ who take medication to manage the physical symptoms of anxiety and depression. Trust me when I say that I’ve never felt better, I am NOT numb, and the extremes are gone.
When you’ve walked a mile in my shoes, so exhausted from being thrown from one emotional extreme to another in every waking moment. When you’ve laughed and cried and screamed and freaked out and loved …. all at once… every day. When you trade in your degree from the Google School of Medicine for a real one.
Then, and only then, should you voice your opinion on my current treatment.
You’re not 6 years old anymore, Dr. Know-It-All. This is real life.
I get that you were worried – we all were. I get that you were coming from a place of love and compassion.
But do you get that you could kill someone by telling them to go off their meds? You could cause irreparable damage by encouraging them to self-dose – whether you think they are taking too much or not enough.
You and I both know that pharmaceutical therapies are not the only factor in preventing mental breakdowns. We all know someone who was freed from the holds of depression through prayer, or diet, or some magic woo-woo what-not. Maybe that was you!
And maybe you weren’t suffering from CHRONIC anxiety and depression. Maybe your case was unique, your story the exception. Maybe. Possibly. But that still doesn’t make you HER doctor.
Shit happens. Life happens. Depression lies. God & meditation can’t always save you when you’re going bat-shit crazy.
Worried about the safety of a loved one? Encourage them to call for help, or do it yourself even!
But don’t tell her what she should or shouldn’t do with her medication unless you’re fully qualified to. And even if you are, unless you’re privy to information that would help you make that judgement it’s really not your call is it?